A Letter To My Teenage Self



This year, on May 7th, I will be turning 23. I have started to realize just how quickly life appears to fly on by. I mean, it truly feels as if just yesterday I was a teenager in high school.



Although it feels as if it was just yesterday, there is so much I wish I could go back and tell my old self. Not only have I changed physically, but mentally I have grown in ways I did not expect. I thought I knew it all and yet now I know for sure that no, in fact, I did not know it all.



I can’t help but wish I could go back in time and tell myself some much-needed advice, but since time travel has yet to be invented, this blog post will have to do.



My goal with this post is not only to write the things I wish I could tell 16-year-old me, but to hopefully speak to the teenagers who read my posts. It is not easy being a teenager, am I right?



Dear Lily,



I know you think you can control everything, and that somehow everything relates back to you, but it doesn’t. The problems in your family can’t be solved by any action or any words you say. Stop blaming yourself for things out of your control.



Stop trying to make life easier for everyone else, trying to be the “perfect” daughter, or trying to seem okay all the time. It’s perfectly okay to not be okay. It’s okay to tell other people of how you feel and of what is really keeping you up at night.



Keeping all of your problems bottled up will only result in some serious anxiety. Learn to embrace the madness, and do more things for you. Surround yourself by friends who really care about you and inspire you. Stop making friends just for the sake of having a lot of friends.



Quality over quantity. Seriously, this will save you some disappointment down the road.



Be selfish. Do things for your self-care. Stop trying to keep your friends and family happy if you’re not happy. Stop caring so much about what people think. Prioritize yourself, it’s okay to put yourself first.



You know all of the people telling you how skinny you are? Believe them this time and see yourself as you are. Don’t compare yourself. Know your worth and never let a man comment on your body or touch you without consent. You are more powerful than you think.



Take more time to focus on hobbies you enjoy. Not what is “cool” or what your friends are doing. Sports are not your thing, and that is okay. You’re a creative soul who would rather be indoors, writing, and playing music-there is NOTHING wrong with that.



Pay attention to those friends who care about you, be good to them. Forget about the ones that don’t. Go thrifting more, seriously, it’s affordable and fun. Nothing wrong with styling on a budget.



Don’t feel pressured to know what career you want after high school. Trust me, you’ll learn as you go. STOP putting so much pressure on yourself. Go out, have fun, relax. Worrying isn’t going to fix anything.



Don’t make decisions based off what your family or friends expect from you. You’ll find your happiness once you start doing things for you. High school will fly by, so just have fun. You don’t know this yet, but life after high school will teach you more about life than those 4 years in school.



Focus on self-care and you will find that your anxiety will have less control over you. You don’t have control of what is going on at home, but you can control how you choose to deal with it. Enjoy being 16, make mistakes because that is actually okay. You’ll have stories to laugh at later. 



I promise you, you’re going to be just fine.





  1. Amy February 5, 2018 / 5:32 pm

    I am a teenager, and I relate to quite a bit of this. Thank you for writing such a beautiful post 💜. I’ll definetely be trying to apply some of what you say.
    Amy x

    • Lily Segui February 5, 2018 / 5:37 pm

      Awww thank you Amy!! I really hope this helps you in some way😊

  2. Sophie Wentworth February 5, 2018 / 6:02 pm

    This is beautiful! I love reading posts like this and I relate so much to so many of the things you said here. Stop trying to be perfect, focus on what you want, don’t feel pressured…Younger me definitely needed to hear that. 23 year old me still needs to hear this sometimes! Amazing post x


    • Lily Segui February 5, 2018 / 6:26 pm

      Thank you Sophie!! It makes me so happy that you can relate to my post ☺️& I agree! Even as young adults this still comes in handy ☺️

  3. Bexa February 5, 2018 / 6:09 pm

    I loved reading this Lily! 💖 So many great points you have made and so positive and inspirational. I especially agree with don’t worry about a career just yet. It’s fun to try different things and find out what suits you, there is no rush. Also, self care is so important, look after yourself and everything will be fine ☺️. Lovely post 😘 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • Lily Segui February 5, 2018 / 6:28 pm

      Thank you so much girly!! Glad you enjoyed this post ☺️ Yesss it is so important to look after yourself & leave the worries behind. I wish I would have not wasted time stressing about my future when I was 16 😊

  4. Polly February 5, 2018 / 6:19 pm

    Great advice for people of any age! I also love the photography on your blog 💗


    • Lily Segui February 5, 2018 / 6:29 pm

      Thank you so much Polly!!🙈💗

    • Lily Segui February 5, 2018 / 9:33 pm

      That’s why I made this post! In hopes someone could relate to my experiences & I’m so happy you did 😊💗

  5. Chloe February 6, 2018 / 7:23 pm

    Hi, life passes by far too quickly. I hope that you look back on it and no longer do the following, don’t compare yourself and stop putting pressure on yourself.

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 7:30 pm

      Hey Chloe! I agree, wishing I could tell that to 16 year old me 😂

  6. corinne & kirsty February 6, 2018 / 7:26 pm

    This is such a great post idea! I would want to tell my teenage self so many things but at the same time, letting her makes mistake so that she can learn ^^xx corinne

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 7:30 pm

      Thanks girly!! I agree mistakes help you learn and grow & sometimes give you things to laugh about later 😜

  7. Ayse February 6, 2018 / 7:33 pm

    This is such a great post! And I’ve thought about writing a letter to my future self so I can read it 10 years later and see where I am and the difference in me as a person and life but this idea seems pretty cool aswell! Ayse x

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 7:36 pm

      You should do both!! That’s a genius idea!!!🙈💗

  8. Rachael @ TheDailyEverything February 6, 2018 / 7:48 pm

    This is absolutely beautiful. I relate to every single word.
    I actually felt quite emotional reading this thank you for your honesty and sharing this, a real gem of a read.

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 8:03 pm

      I definitely felt emotional writing this & it makes me so happy you could relate!! Thank you sooo much!!!💗

  9. Lupe February 6, 2018 / 7:56 pm

    This was so beautiful Lily! I’m turning 22 this year and it is so hard to forgot about how hard on myself I was in high school. If I knew how college was I would have balanced social life and school, making sure I put myself out there and became friends with more people.

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 8:05 pm

      Thank you so much Lupe!!!🙈💗 Of only we could go back in time & tell this to our hs selves huh?😌

  10. Faisal February 6, 2018 / 9:12 pm

    I love this post and it’s full of valuable advice for anyone who is a teenager right now. Keep up the good work.

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 11:34 pm

      Thanks so much, Faisal !!

  11. Gracie February 6, 2018 / 10:47 pm

    Love this idea it has inspired me to think about writing a letter to myself too!

    • Lily Segui February 6, 2018 / 11:33 pm

      Yessss you definitely should!!

  12. Lena Dee February 7, 2018 / 12:26 am

    This is just wow lily, so sincere and beautiful and VERY relatable! 😭🤧 I think although this is a post to your teenage self I’m pretty sure if the you back then could see you now, she’d be oh so inspired and admire the woman you are becoming. You’re such a sweetheart! 💕 you’re right on so many levels…being young you’re afraid and don’t necessarily want to piss off anyone cause you don’t want to be left at your most vulnerable stage and let’s face it having to look for new friends all the time would be nerve rattling but I wish more teens would understand the power of an equally uplifting friendship and not always having to please someone for them to be your friend or to stay. And to any girl reading this I hope they take in this message especially about your body being yours and consent being key. Lovely read babe! 😘

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

    • Lily Segui February 7, 2018 / 1:35 am

      Lena youuuu are the sweetest!!! Your words mean so much & encourages me to be more personal in future posts. I agree & I hope this posts speaks to anyone that needs it. Thank you so much for your kind words lovely 💗

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