This year, on May 7th, I will be turning 23. I have started to realize just how quickly life appears to fly on by. I mean, it truly feels as if just yesterday I was a teenager in high school.
Although it feels as if it was just yesterday, there is so much I wish I could go back and tell my old self. Not only have I changed physically, but mentally I have grown in ways I did not expect. I thought I knew it all and yet now I know for sure that no, in fact, I did not know it all.
I can’t help but wish I could go back in time and tell myself some much-needed advice, but since time travel has yet to be invented, this blog post will have to do.
My goal with this post is not only to write the things I wish I could tell 16-year-old me, but to hopefully speak to the teenagers who read my posts. It is not easy being a teenager, am I right?
I know you think you can control everything, and that somehow everything relates back to you, but it doesn’t. The problems in your family can’t be solved by any action or any words you say. Stop blaming yourself for things out of your control.
Stop trying to make life easier for everyone else, trying to be the “perfect” daughter, or trying to seem okay all the time. It’s perfectly okay to not be okay. It’s okay to tell other people of how you feel and of what is really keeping you up at night.
Keeping all of your problems bottled up will only result in some serious anxiety. Learn to embrace the madness, and do more things for you. Surround yourself by friends who really care about you and inspire you. Stop making friends just for the sake of having a lot of friends.
Quality over quantity. Seriously, this will save you some disappointment down the road.
Be selfish. Do things for your self-care. Stop trying to keep your friends and family happy if you’re not happy. Stop caring so much about what people think. Prioritize yourself, it’s okay to put yourself first.
You know all of the people telling you how skinny you are? Believe them this time and see yourself as you are. Don’t compare yourself. Know your worth and never let a man comment on your body or touch you without consent. You are more powerful than you think.
Take more time to focus on hobbies you enjoy. Not what is “cool” or what your friends are doing. Sports are not your thing, and that is okay. You’re a creative soul who would rather be indoors, writing, and playing music-there is NOTHING wrong with that.
Pay attention to those friends who care about you, be good to them. Forget about the ones that don’t. Go thrifting more, seriously, it’s affordable and fun. Nothing wrong with styling on a budget.
Don’t feel pressured to know what career you want after high school. Trust me, you’ll learn as you go. STOP putting so much pressure on yourself. Go out, have fun, relax. Worrying isn’t going to fix anything.
Don’t make decisions based off what your family or friends expect from you. You’ll find your happiness once you start doing things for you. High school will fly by, so just have fun. You don’t know this yet, but life after high school will teach you more about life than those 4 years in school.
Focus on self-care and you will find that your anxiety will have less control over you. You don’t have control of what is going on at home, but you can control how you choose to deal with it. Enjoy being 16, make mistakes because that is actually okay. You’ll have stories to laugh at later.
I promise you, you’re going to be just fine.