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In What Ways Is Instagram Affecting Us?


Unless you live under a rock, you know that social media has become much more than a platform where you interact with friends, and share pictures of your avocado toast.


As a “90’s baby”, I can remember when the social media craze began. It was middle school when we began bringing our Tracfone/Nokia flip phones. Just the fact that we could now text our friends instead of passing notes?? Revolutionary.


Pretty soon, not only would we be able to text our friends, but add them onto our Myspace and get a glimpse of their world. As we all know, that platform soon evolved into Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Tumblr, and all the other socials that spread like wildfire.


For many, social media has become part of their job. It is a marketing platform, a place to engage with followers, a place to showcase your brand. Although it can be a fun and creative space, can these social platforms-such as Instagram- also affect us?



The truth is, when you begin to treat these platforms as a business, you have to do your research. You need to be aware of what “sells”, and what will attract the most growth. The sad truth is that what “sells” now a days, simply isn’t an unedited photo of your dinner.


Now if you want to upload a picture of your meal, you have to consider these factors. Is the lighting good? Is this meal aesthetic and cohesive with my Instagram theme? Do I have the props to make this photo more aesthetic?


There is so much thought, editing, and time invested into creating the perfect Instagram feed. In many ways, this can quickly “suck out the fun” of social media. For any blogger, youtuber, or someone trying to grow a business, you know the struggle. You have done the research.


How Can This Affect Us?


If you constantly create content for a platform that you know demands perfection, you will eventually get burnt out. I have seen this so much, including from myself, where people will announce a break from social media.


There is also the issue of younger and more impressionable followers, who see these feeds that were edited to look perfect, and crave a life based on edited and pre-planned pictures.


Is it getting harder to separate real life and online life when social media takes up so much of our time? The majority of those who understand the “behind the scenes” work that goes into just one photo, know real life is not based off a beautiful Instagram feed.


This begs the question, what about those who simply stumble on these feeds? The middle schoolers, the younger kids, the parents who follow these feeds as aspirations of what they want their lives to look like?


Should influencers hold to the responsibility of being relatable? Should we disclaim the truths of what it took to get that one good photograph? Personally, I think we should, and here’s why.


If we begin to disclaim the truths behind that “perfect” feed, we can inspire not only those younger kids, but create a new definition of perfection. An imperfect perfection where we share how we don’t actually visit beautiful cafe’s every single day and order avocado toast, but how we actually love carbs, and that image of our cappuccino and toast is from months ago. And hey, it fit into the theme.


I am definitely not bashing Instagram at all. The truth is, it can be a creative and fun platform. But who wants to pretend to be perfect? That’s just exhausting! Truthfully, it takes a toll and can be mentally draining. It becomes stressful. It becomes simply a “job”.


The main point is this-let’s be real! Not saying to quit creating beautiful images, simply to create a caption or spread awareness of the “behind the scenes”. Let people know that hey, we’re all human, life isn’t perfect.


Change happens in small steps over-time, so let’s create change by being imperfectly perfect.


Thank you lovelies for taking time out of your day to read my post! If you’re curious to check out my personal Instagram page, you can simply click the link here.





  1. January 12, 2018 / 6:02 am

    such an interesting and well written post. it’s so mad to think that all these different social medias spawned out of myspace / bebo. those were the days, eh?!

    ive gotta admit i am SO glad i was ‘old enough to know better’ by the time instagram really kicked off – its definitely something ive been old and wise enough to take with a pinch of salt!

    katie. xx

    • Lily Segui
      January 12, 2018 / 9:09 pm

      Thank you for the compliment on this post!! It means so much as I love your blog and writing as well! 🙂 How cool is it to say we knew a world before social media? haha

    • Lily Segui
      January 13, 2018 / 2:09 am

      Thank you Isabella!!

  2. January 13, 2018 / 12:43 am

    This is such a well written and interesting post. It really is crazy to think how much an app affects us all, I definitely used to be too obsessed with having the perfect feed, but thankfully realised I should just be enjoying the app and posting what and when I want too 🙂

    Such a great post!

    Kate |

    • Lily Segui
      January 13, 2018 / 2:09 am

      Thanks for reading Kate!! 🙂 I’m glad you’ve learned to enjoy Instagram instead of letting it be consuming! That’s so important!

  3. January 15, 2018 / 5:26 pm

    A really important subject to discuss I think… Social Media can be amazing, but it can also be really detrimental if used wrong. IN regards to Instagram, for the benefit of my own self-love and sanity, I have to detach myself slightly and appreciate them for being aesthetically pleasing and not necessarily a reflection of life, or how it should be – then again, it did take a long time to be in a position of not letting people’s “perfect” lives get to me.. So, I can imagine how it must be for younger people.

    It worries me how young some of the people on Instagram are – my two step-sisters use it, the youngest has been since she was eight, and the things they can be exposed can really affect them, their perception of the world, reality, and how they should behave.

    Influencers definitely have a responsibility to protect their followers to a certain extent, but also, people need to remember at ultimately, these are business people.

    I find the whole thing really interesting, and a great discussion topic!!

    • Lily Segui
      January 15, 2018 / 5:32 pm

      Sooooo happy you enjoyed reading my post!! I completely agree, this is a topic that can definitely be discussed further & everyone will have a different opinion. Although it is a business, I feel influencers, but most importantly parents, need to enlight their kids on the realities. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment on this post lovely!!?

  4. January 15, 2018 / 5:32 pm

    This is an interesting post and you raise a good point. A bit of BTS and touch of the person behind the (phone)camera has never hurt, even if the feed seems “imperfect” then, it gives it a bit more character.

    • Lily Segui
      January 15, 2018 / 5:41 pm

      I agree lovely!! It also makes that person more real and relatable 🙂

  5. January 15, 2018 / 6:02 pm

    This is so interesting and something I think of a lot. I think we’re about the same age (I’m 23?) And I always think people my age have a really interesting take on this. Being young enough to be caught up in the hype of it all but old enough to remember life without it. I always feel so sorry for the people who are a bit younger and have never known life without it. It’s such an unattainable aesthetic that people are trying to live up to x


    • Lily Segui
      January 15, 2018 / 6:19 pm

      I’m turning 23 this May! ? & I agree! I just feel that we should keep those younger kids in mind so that they are aware that a big part of these aethetic feeds are for business. Social influencers, businesses, etc. It’s not what real life actually looks like 🙂

  6. January 15, 2018 / 6:23 pm

    Girl I remember reading this I swore I left a comment ?? I honestly thought I did. I def enjoyed reading this because this question is becoming more pertinent than people realize. Social media will always have its pros and cons like anything else. Honestly as much hard work as it is to do a flat lay or just to have a feed and images nice I enjoy the aesthetics, it’s an art for me. But for some it’s a way to portray a way of life and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s a matter of whether the viewer or reader realized that things don’t just happen like that and the image or portrait they’re seeing is just the surface and so much more lies underneath. Great discussion and topic Lily ??

    xx Lena |

    • Lily Segui
      January 15, 2018 / 6:31 pm

      Thanks so much Lena!!?? I agree, I love how this topic brings up a discussion from different perspectives 🙂 Social media can definitely be fun, as long as we all know the difference between an aesthetic feed, and reality.

  7. January 15, 2018 / 6:33 pm

    This is such a great post topic! I completely agree with you, its really tough to see beautiful people and beautiful things all over Instagram and not compare yourself to the people who run those pages- x

    • Lily Segui
      January 15, 2018 / 6:58 pm

      Thank you Sophie!!!? I agree, as long as we know the behind the scenes 🙂

  8. January 15, 2018 / 8:06 pm

    Great post! Probably explains why my Insta account is stuck on 390 followers… Can’t be bothered to create themes and spend hours making the perfect picture.

    • Lily Segui
      January 15, 2018 / 10:46 pm

      Thanks Georgia!!?? I agree, Instagram requires a lot of work in order to grow & is definitely not easy.

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